I’ve known people who are largely ruled by pursuit of comfort or immediate gratification. They seem to lead a piecemeal life; I’ve seen them jump from pleasure to pleasure, comfort to comfort—all of them transient—as entropy rises with inexorable certainty, trapping them on a sinking piece of compromise and misery.
Personally, I’d rather seek fulfillment. It might not be as pleasurable in the short-term, but working towards fulfillment allows me a bone-deep peace that handily beats the petty rush of bowing to cravings and whims.
I like that idea of “bone-deep peace.”
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You are referring to people who fail the Marshmallow test.
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Is that the one about the kids who were tested for their resistance to immediate gratification?
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Yes, that’s the one.
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Well said
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My question is … how do you find out what will give you fulfillment? There is a real danger of thinking something is going to be fulfilling, and then when you get there, it’s not that great. If you’re lucky, mountains rise beyond mountains, but if you’re unlucky, all that happens is you have to climb back down off the mountain that you thought was going to bring fulfillment and start on something else.
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I can only say what works for me: do the best I can at an activity the universe “clues” me into (typically through proclivity and opportunity I think) and then after an honest effort (with physical stuff I like to give around 3 months before passing judgment), assess the evidence as objectively as I can, and see if it’s something I want to keep doing. All the while, I have to be situationally aware, making sure that I’m addressing unforeseen obstacles or capitalizing on unforeseen opportunities. This is where all the “warrior” stuff comes in as a matter of practicality: brutal self-honesty for assessment, discipline and attention to detail to make the effort, and constant awareness to ensure that all factors are continuously being accounted for as best as possible.
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So- when do you make up a Musings book? Really enjoy these posts
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Thank You! They kind of come easily, so I’d feel kinda bad charging for them. 🙂
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Ha ha ha!
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Charge away I’d buy the book 🙂
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I’m actually compiling them right now for ebook and physical copy right now, LOL!
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“trapping them on a sinking piece of compromise and misery.” I absolutely LOVE your writing.
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Thank You! I love your support, Fan Girl Kris! 😀 (Sorry if that’s condescending; I meant it as a term of affection as I recall you calling yourself that in early comments!) 🙂
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Dear man, I am ALWAYS your fangirl. I am not in here as often, but I still read your notes as they come thru my email. I’m glad you still consider me a fangirl.
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AbsoLUTEly! You’re one of my first and best supporters!!! 🙂 😀 😘
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piffle, dear man. When I found you, you already had a bazillion (ok, I exaggerate a bit) followers. Just know I’m still around. I’m still annoyed I don’t get your Manchild Monday posts in my email. Not fair! I sure as heck star all of those!
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Hahaha! I’m super flattered! You are definitely one of my STRONGEST and BEST supporters Kris! There’s a special place in my heart for ya! 😀
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Melting like ice cream on a warm day….but not all over the place, cuz that’s too messy! 🍦
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