I’ve noticed that when I relax into allowance, even if its of my own negativity (simply feeling it and letting it be, not acting on it or inflaming it with logical justifications or denials), it leads to neutrality, then positivity. This leads me to believe positivity is a default state. So instead of frantic rationalizations denying negativity, or teeth-grating insistence on feeling something more pleasant, I abide in negativity that organically arises, knowing it will reciprocate by allowing the reinstatement of my default positivity. It works for me, but maybe not everyone.
Dirty Sci-Fi Buddha 
I think it’s best to manifest and think of the best things that can happen. It’s a good way to live. I’m working on it, but I’m getting there. Positivity is the way.
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If it works for you, that is great! Knowing positivity is your default is awesome. ~Nan
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Ooo I like this! I’m going to try it because I think this might work for me too!
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This reminds me of the lines from the children’s book, Going on a Bear Hunt:
We can’t go over it
We can’t go under it
We’re just gonna have to go through it
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I’m glad I’m not the only one. This totally works. I call it sitting in the chaos or the gray. Or think if Let it Be by the Beatles
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One of my favorite songs!
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Oh, absolutely. Time flows in the direction of greater complexity. That may mean more complex problems, but it also means more effective solutions.
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Lovely.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself!
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Great👍🏼
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Accepting is all we need to do. Rightly said.
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I’ve noticed this effect myself and have talked about it once or twice!
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Yeah – letting yourself to think about something without ruminating or attaching emotions allows that experience to be integrated. It becomes just another event and then you can continue to move along smoothly!
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Yes. I’ve noticed that when I push against my negativity all it does is seem to reinforce it. I usually have to give it time and stop talking negatively to myself. Then it seems to correct itself. I don’t feel it’s an active act on my part, but maybe it should be. I’m not sure I’ll ever find that positivity is my default state. I mostly settle for neutrality.
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I’m the same, and pushing seems to just exhaust me in the end.
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I think this doesn’t go against the grain of what I believe in, however, with a relatively keener observation, one can always find out that one’s inferences about something need adjustments.
Generally, and in a glance, things that happen to us take a form. What I mean by this is that nothing is neither positive nor negative in the start, it always take a form, it is either this or that. And deep inside one’s psychology, events make themselves clear; this is danger, talk to your heels; or this is a chance for food, take it. You can either be given a promotion or be thrown out of the com[any’s front door by the guards.
This certainty, the truth is that we don’t always like it. Because as we’ve all seen, life sometimes throw hard rocks at us. So in an attempt to escape, or at least take one’s mind off such event, we DETACH ourselves from the occurrence. The truth, we are just trying not to think about what we should be thinking about in the moment, this is the origin of the named neutrality.
As I have noticed, we all like doing this a lot…it brought about words like detachment, rationalization, justification, excuse et cetera. However, I’m not trying to say fiddling with the perspective our minds are seeing, in order words, trying to make a bad event look neutral or non-existing, is a bad thing, because sometimes, it is what we need. We just need to let go of it, and we don’t always find a better way to do the job.
In the end, I don’t think I will go with the statement, “…it leads to neutrality, then positivity.” you might have done a good job of embellishing your circumstance by electroplating it and make your mind focus on something else, but it doesn’t change the fact that what you’re going through is a bad time; it doesn’t change the fact that Kent had just been thrown out the front door. (Evil laugh: Muhahahahaha!)
But does it matter what’s happening to us, good or evil, or what matters is if we are happy or sad. Ask me one more time?
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