I like to think that any unpleasantness in my past has some potential benefit. With time and perspective, I like to think that negative outcomes can be shaped into something positive–they don’t have to be some evil ghost that lurks in the shadows and randomly messes with me. Their true purpose might be the polar opposite: to show me insight and guidance over a long-term span.
Maybe that’s a pipe dream. I don’t know. But sometimes, it’s become a reality. And if it’s just a fantasy, I’m fine with perpetuating my optimistic delusion.
Dirty Sci-Fi Buddha 
“Negative outcomes can be shaped into something positive” – I think so too.
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Whatever you do, whether positive or negative, if you do it for your own entertainment – that’s reason enough. Matters not what other’s experience of it is.
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I have found this to be true in my life, even if it doesn’t look like it much at the time.
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Makes sense to me.
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Yunno what they say, every cloud has a silver lining
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If you look at math and physics and understand what you’re seeing, all space exists at one point and all of time is simultaneous.
What a terrible wondrous miracle it is that we get even a little slice of it. And these moments that get stuck in a loop in the electrical impulses in our mind defy the normal constraints of memory as well as time and space.
Electricity can be cut off, reduced, weakened. And we can use that ill-gotten wisdom, those extra electrical pathways that the memories etched into our mind, as wisdom to move far past the people and moments and behavior that had us in a loop.
I wish for all of us to experience this, beginning to end at least once. I think this hardship handled well makes us better people.
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Very good point! I think about this a lot, as well as the irony that many just operate as if this wasn’t a base pillar of our existence.
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We certainly learn from the past.
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I absolutely love this and think that any unpleasant experiences in the past – definitely contribute to good outcomes in the future, even if they’re just lessons learned and mistakes you know never to make again. 🙂
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It’s not through doing a task correctly that we learn, it’s through making mistakes and redoing it. Same with life. We learn and grow through our mistakes and setbacks.
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It’s not a pipe dream. But like being able to lift weights, it’s not a pipe dream. It also requires training. Lots of it.
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Absolutely! I have a different perspective now. I see it all as a gift. Even my worst day, is a gift. Perspective is everything.
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Beautiful way to think about it!
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Sounds like a very happy perspective to take…wishing you a wonderful day 🙂
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It is indeed! Thank you, and I hope your day is wonderful as well!
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Thanks 😀
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I believe that it is what we do today that matters most. Mistakes are inevitable, and a valuable tool for growth.
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Some of the best written, recorded and filmed plots are based on this. I agree.
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I’ve definitely felt like the past is a heavy ball and chain, constantly weighing me down and pulling me back. But, as time has gone on, and healing has occurred, I realize that all of those awful experiences have shaped who I am today and made me more compassionate and patient, etc. It has helped me to consider that (and this may sound cheesy, but it’s true) every hero’s journey has intense struggle and conflict–it’s what makes the hero the hero. We can’t have the victories without failures. Everything has its opposite. So, all that is to say, the past doesn’t pull me back like it once did. It’s a process, though. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. They are very relatable.
And thank you so much for the likes on my tiny, invisible-to-the-rest-of-the-world blog. I can’t tell you how encouraging they are!
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Great perspective! I like to think of failures as clarifications. It’s kind of ironic–I think it’s important to feel the negativity and process it, but after a certain point, that becomes counterproductive. It’s really about staying present and being in touch with intuition, I think.
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Yes! I agree.
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I employ my demons. As writers, we can make those bitches pay for rent in our heads.
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Haha! Well put!
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For anticipating negative outcomes, I would call depression.
Thank you for liking my poem!
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Pretty much the same perspective potential employers expect you to have in an interview when it comes to your‘weaknesses’ I guess🤷♂️
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To take good from a bad experience takes a long time to happen. But it’s so worth it.
Gwen.
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Indeed! I think it may be a matter of relaxing and appreciating. For me, at least.
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Was it not Sri Yoganrnda who said, “Only that which is the other gives us fully unto ourselves.”
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