Maybe I’ve fallen into a foolish state of existential trust, but I find that if I build on what I’m given, I’m given more to build with. That doesn’t mean everything has to be put to immediate use, but I do believe there’s value in releasing anger and frustration (for me it’s not so much deliberately releasing, but deliberately validating and internally allowing it and it releases on its own) at not being given what I thought I wanted.
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I prefer stomping around like a mad little Boo until I get what I want. 😂
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That’s definitely a way to get one more romp in the sheets out of me–I’ve always been vulnerable to it! 🤣
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How’s that workin’ out for you?🤣
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It’s definitely a good way to get out the aggression if nothing else! 😂
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😂 You may need an extra pair of shoes.
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Your reflections on embracing existential trust and allowing the release of emotions are thought-provoking. It’s a profound understanding that building from what we’re given often brings more than we initially expected. Here’s to the wisdom found in navigating the complexities of desires and needs.
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Thank you! Yes, emotion is key to perception and belief, in my opinion (didn’t always think so, I used to think it was weakness). Managing emotion will allow for positivity and belief that endeavors are worth trying, or negativity, where paranoia and bitterness will impact relationships, actions under stress, the willingness to try new endeavors, and eventually physical health.
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You’re absolutely right! It’s fascinating how our perspective on emotions can shift over time. Managing our emotions indeed becomes a crucial factor in shaping our outlook on life. Your insight into the impact of emotions on relationships, decision-making under stress, and overall well-being is spot on. It’s a reminder of the power emotions hold in influencing our lives at multiple levels.
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Indeed! I used to think everything was about material accomplishments, but then I realized that they’re not so great if you don’t feel good about them after you’ve achieved them. Also, managing emotions can allow me to feel good about little stuff right here and now, instead of waiting around for some grand complicated achievement.
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Indeed. Thank you for your wisdom.
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I’m wondering what you thought you wanted. Did you want to sell more books than Agatha Christie, or something like that? I won’t list my other 100 wilder guesses.
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At certain points, yes, I wanted that very much, but later I realized I wanted that primarily to rationalize how I was “better” than others, or basically insecurity. Now I wouldn’t mind, but only to open the door to more fun and potential enjoyment. I know that’s also not a guarantee–material success doesn’t automatically bring those about, so I’d much rather stay present and enjoy what’s unfolding in front of me.
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Thanks. You’ve just been super useful. Seriously.
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No problem! Happy to be of use! 😊
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I suspect you would be well aware of how anger can be rocket fuel for creativity.
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Yeah, I’d rather not have to do that, though. If it’s a binary option (which I don’t think it is), I’d rather enjoy the moment and forgo the rocket fuel.
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It sounds to me that you’re transmuting anger into fuel for positive change. Which is a much better use than throwing things.
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Thanks! Yes, I don’t believe the point of life is to cling to anger longer than necessary (which paradoxically, also means not internally suppressing it or berating myself for feeling it, those tend to just feed mine).
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I teach people that the so called negative emotions are just genuine reactions, the same as positive ones.
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They are indeed! In my experience, repression or minimization/amplification through over-rationalization just feeds negativity (kind of like picking at a scab makes it stick around longer). I prefer to feel it, validate it, and if I’m truly accepting of it, it lets go of its own accord and positivity is allowed to come back in (which in my opinion is the default mode, as in meditation or empty mind the mind does not stay empty, bliss and other good stuff seeps in)
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“If I build on what I’m given, I’m given more to build with.” Positive way to look at things!
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Thank you! Just trying to make my life easier!
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Insightful, incisive post with a lot in there. Well written. Awareness, acknowledgement, education are foremost necessary, followed by tools, steps for transformation… https://ruparaoruminates.wordpress.com/
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This brings to mind a quote from my hopefully upcoming novel, Wishing Lessons. “What appears to be a blessing can be a curse. The opposite is equally true.” And “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.” ~ attributed to Aesop’s Fables.
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