Musings

When I get entangled in metrics and expectations (societal pressure), I have to remind myself that my definition of success is being happy.

In circumstances where I have achieved what others define as “success,” I have often found myself absolutely miserable. There is no success if I can’t optimize my personal state of mind.


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  1. Money canโ€™t buy happiness, but it can buy vacations and thatโ€™s kind of the same thing! But, there are shi**y vacations too, it all depends on the company you take!! ๐ŸŒด๐Ÿชธ๐ŸŒบ

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    1. Yes and shopping trips! As soon as money arrives you can kiss it goodbye as the rest of eye tag on and strip you down like leaches! I prefer staycations, make a few million dollars worth of house with the things you like on holiday all year round! Invite your music and movie pals for a sleep over!

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      1. When I was an art student in NYC I noticed successful artists often lived outside the city. If that was the prize for success I decided to grab that prize for a chance to breathe clean air. A year later I was told I almost looked healthy…

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      2. I sat in the bronx, parliament, deliverance and medically raised six houses intenational to baseground for 15 years! six masters and built a mini eco farm and heritage museum to the world! I have a jungle for a garden with tropical plants and its own orchard! I radiate in all the right ways! lol

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      3. My brother is an artist (MFA from Syracuse) who said the same thing. Artists visit the city for gallery shows and networking, but living there is pretty tough on the wallet, as well as the lungs like you said.

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    2. Agreed. I hate the vacations and getaways where it feels like I gotta do x y and z, kind of like a less annoying job, imo.

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      1. What would be your ideal getaway?

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      2. He likes going coastal! Sun, sea and no sangria! high alc mouthwash for all,”
        Mr Wayne; ” are you sure this is mouthwash it tastes syrupy! ”

        “Oh yes sweety it is a new eco version!” of mint baileys lol! ”

        would we be picking him from the rafters, off the kareoke machine or nursing a selection of bottles! sunglasses for all!

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      3. I’m actually partial to magic mushrooms, even though I only take them once every few months nowadays, and in a small dose. It’s the cleanest high I’ve ever felt–no impairment, no laziness, just good vibes. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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      4. Brave! I am centre borders recoverer, medium, religious first responder and a million other resposibilities! Masters means i really do not like secondary triggers to events, i see enough layers! Do you like spaghetti bolognese cos if so you might just be in luck! ๐Ÿ˜ do yo pick your own?

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      5. I usually stay away from carbs, so I LOVE spaghetti! I’d love to try your spaghetti, among other things…๐Ÿ˜

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      6. Family favourite! added tomatoes mushrooms and if it is pasta, the occassional sausage (sliced!) ๐ŸŒญ and occasionally some sliced peppers and aubergine ๐Ÿ†….got to work on you five a day! lol

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      7. I can provide the eggplant! ๐Ÿคฃ

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      8. Thank you for offering to shop, what a good man i will pay you in kind and some! lol key is in the proteins, peppers, spices and antioxidents just add cheese! yuck i should refraze that ! lol your eggplant can be taken later! when you pay me ๐Ÿ’ฆ !lol a way to a mans heart is through his….

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      9. Maybe I can pay you in eggplant. ๐Ÿ˜

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      10. kindness, tlc and being my partner in writing crime! you insight naughty! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ lol the side i do not indulge!

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      11. I think I’d like to try some different overwater bungalows, but an extended stay, maybe three or four weeks at a time. ๐Ÿ˜Š It takes a week or two for me to find a rhythm, then I’d like to explore for a bit, but not too much where I start getting bored.

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      12. That sounds lovely! Imagine, walking out, slipping into the tropical waters, and watching the ๐Ÿชธ with all itโ€™s brightly colored ๐Ÿ  ๐ŸŸ ๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿก๐Ÿฆ€, then coming back, lazing in an overwater hammock, then showering off and slipping into fine linen sheets for some more fun.

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      13. Maybe you could join me in the shower. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I’m not a fan of anything more than kissing and groping in there, because the water interferes with the other stuff in my opinion, but the sudsiness is perfect for getting handsy! It’d be a perfect warmup for “more fun.” ๐Ÿ˜

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      14. Oh, Mr. Wayne! Sounds divine. โ˜บ๏ธ

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      15. Promise to wash my hair? It feels so much better when you do it! ๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜ˆ

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      16. You’ll have to control yourself–you might feel something thick and curved pressing against your back…๐Ÿ˜

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      17. Iโ€™ll do my best, but no guaranโ€ฆ..tease! ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

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      18. I’d let you tease for a bit, but then I’d pin your hands back above your head and tease you right back! It’s only fair…๐Ÿ˜‰

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      19. Oh! Mr. Wayne! Promise? I think I am about to explode! ๐Ÿ’ฅ ๐Ÿ’ฆ I hope you donโ€™t mind if I moan a bit then scream your nameโ€ฆ.

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      20. If your moans get heavy enough, I’ll order you down onto your knees–I’ll need to receive a bit before I give you any more. Also, I edge back from making you scream my name until the very end…๐Ÿ˜

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      21. Iโ€™m a goddess on my knees! ๐Ÿ˜

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      22. In that case, I would tell my goddess to open her mouth so I could see her tongue and look up at me. If I had a belt, I’d tease you with the sight and sound of me unbuckling the clasp and undoing my zipper. I’d be in control for a bit, but you’d soon have a chance to turn the tables. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      23. Iโ€™d wrap my hands around your thighs and gently drag my nails down your hamstrings as you watch my long and talented tongue work itโ€™s magic. ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
        Then weโ€™d both freeze as someone walks by our room and hollers โ€œGet a room you two!!!โ€ ๐Ÿคฃ

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      24. I’d whip my hips in their direction, caving in their skull with my enormous penis. No witnesses! ๐Ÿคฃ

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      25. Lol! ๐Ÿ˜‹ Now, get back over here!

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      26. You’re in control now? It’s only a matter of time before I take charge again, but I like it! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      27. I push you back on the bed and begin to crawl atop you, straddling your legs. My lips ๐Ÿ‘„ gently kiss your thighs and I move up slowly. I spend a little time kissing the crook where your leg joins you hip. I so love this spot on a man. I move on up your abs and chest, teasing you along the way. Finally I settle my hips over yours and lean in to your ear, softly moaning as I shift my hips back and forth. ๐Ÿซฆ

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      28. I’ve got visible muscles on those leg-hip crooks; you might see them shudder and jump if you kiss and nibble. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Once you climbed on, you’d feel me squeezing and spanking, tensing and holding the peak of each thrust. Then when the rhythm picked up, you’d feel me pulling down hard on your ass while I pumped my hips and our bodies slapped together. Time for us both to lose control. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      29. At your peak, you feel me squeeze tight. Holding and pulling you in further. Finally, you feel me shudder and knowing I canโ€™t hold on longer, we reach ecstasy together. I start to moan loudly and pant your name repeatedly off my tongue. ๐Ÿซฆ๐Ÿ’ฆ

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      30. When I lose control, my response is somewhat predictable: I grab your ass and pull you in, so you can only move in small, bucking lurches, my moans/grunts become tinged with desperation, and my whole body tenses and releases three or four times. I’m betting you’d enjoy me holding you tight to my muscled body. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      31. As you pull me against your chest, my breasts heave with each thrust. My moans turn into groans as my hands grip your body to mine. Fire spreads through my veins repeatedly and my face reddens with heat. Small gasps escape as we start to slow, but my insides continue to twitch and squeeze. I rest my head on your chest, my breath warm, as I begin to recover.

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      32. Definitely winning me over with the twitching and squeezing! ๐Ÿ˜ Once I start selling enough books, I’ll ask which city you live at so I can put it at the top of my book tour! ๐Ÿ˜…

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      33. Hmmโ€ฆthen maybe I need to let you get back to writing that seafaring follow up to A Door to Evermoor. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Btw, thank you. I enjoyed ever moment! ๐Ÿ’‹

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      34. We’ll have to try it out on my as-of-yet-to-be-manifested book tour, then refine it in an overwater bungalow! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      35. ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿซฆ

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      36. In my family, this is known as a “run/go/look/see/do” They are to be avoided at all costs.

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      37. Almost as bad as work, in my opinion, because of the dishonest nature, lol!

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  2. I will give you metrics! Fishing scale or tailors chalk, get them cuffed and i will measure your inner leg! lol mans or womans measurement! lol

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    1. Don’t stop at my inner leg! ๐Ÿคฃ

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      1. Sorry i have my mouth full and mysteriously i am sat next to a version of the emporers new clothes! Funny enough i am focussing on stretching out that curve and pinching your base as i control you climax! who needs clothes? woldn’t want you destryed in foreplay! lol

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      2. I’m not sure you could, I’m pretty strong and my whole body tenses and spasms when I climax. I tend to grip a lady’s butt and bring her in as close as possible. ๐Ÿ˜

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      3. Well thats me rolling again! like a mexican wave! still no pittering of tiny feet….. you want to be careful you just might catch me… my musicians are still trying to duplicate my eyes! lol something about a glass jar and hearts!๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸŒน

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  3. So true, happiness is key!

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  4. Success is highly relative. We can say that’s a successful person and he or she can still feel miserable.

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    1. Absolutely. I think Jim Carrey tangentially touched on that when he said he wished everyone could be rich so they realized it didn’t necessarily bring happiness.

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  5. Indeed. There’s always a need for adjustment and assessment, but I like to think of it as more of an adventure. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. you can totally optimize your state of mind because it is you and only you who create your reality. Nice post!

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    1. Thank you! I very much agree.

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  7. So true! Each of us must write our own definition of happiness.

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    gwengrant

    Thank you.
    Gwen.

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  9. Success is relative to all of us. I am constantly negotiating a position (work – wife), and I’ve been doing this for a long time. When I deal with other parties, success is aiming for 100% and settling for 51%. When I’m the judge and jury, 100% and no less.

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    1. Good way to look at it! Everyone has a different way of making things work.

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      1. It would be pitifully boring if we all were the same.

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      2. I’d go so far as to say it might even defeat the purpose of existence. If everything and everyone were the same, there wouldn’t be a need for time and space; it would all be indistinguishable, omnipresent and omnitemporal.

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    jsimpsonpoet

    YEP!!

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  11. I call it whitewashing society. Can I say whitewash???

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    1. I don’t know–can you?? We should file a form in triplicate and check with our attorneys! ๐Ÿ˜†

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  12. Exactly! Never let anyone or anything define what your needs or wants and successes are! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Yep. It’s our right to direct our own thoughts and create our own standards!

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  13. It does not matter how high your standards, idiots still make excuses and can’t catch the reality! Jc’s collect we see it and yall know it! Only one who can judicially kill anyone anywhere for being a genius! Especially trappers…when their friends sign in to play with their extra’s…now being eaten! love and loyalty is pointless! unless you are me! as most of the wolds fact level are staff and entourage!….back to the cleaners! lol

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