Kent Wayne

Musings

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I used to believe I had to earn my happiness.

Then I realized that I could be happy in “miserable” conditions (as well as vice versa—I could be miserable in “happy” conditions).  My happiness wasn’t dependent on sacrificing or justifying my way into a predetermined “heaven” or “enlightenment.”

Happiness, in my opinion, springs from an internal focus on relaxation and allowance, rather than earning and strife.  Outwardly, I may or may not have to exert physical effort, but that is independent of my happiness.

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  1. deteremineddespitewp Avatar
    deteremineddespitewp

    How true.
    Happiness has a benign sort of mischief, sneaking up when you least expect it. Welcome the surprise.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Indeed! Being surprised by delight is one of the best things ever.

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      1. deteremineddespitewp Avatar
        deteremineddespitewp

        👍

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      2. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        EVER !!

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  2. Towint Avatar
    Towint

    Kudos. You’ve come to a realization and wisdom that takes some people a lifetime to grasp. 💚
    Enjoy your freedom now.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Thank you! Maybe I knew it, forgot it, and now I’m slowly coming around again, LOL!

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  3. Solitaire Avatar
    Solitaire

    Wow that’s a mouthful! Be happy!🎐

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    1. aparna12 Avatar
      aparna12

      Amazing thoughts. An excellent post. I have started reading A Door into Evermoor. Wow! I find it fascinating and very interesting. Hopefully I will finish reading it in a day Or two. I find reading your books very refreshing and highly entertaining. In fact, I gave up watching TV for good.

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      1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Thank you!! Super happy you’re enjoying A Door into Evermoor. Very different from Echo! I hope you’ll find it just as entertaining.

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    2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Will do! You too!

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  4. forresting365 Avatar
    forresting365

    Here here!!! Thank You! 💕

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      You’re welcome! My pleasure!

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  5. Vickie Avatar
    Vickie

    Needed to hear this! Choose happy!

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Yes!

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  6. Stuart Danker Avatar
    Stuart Danker

    That’s exactly what I’m exploring as well. I know that my thoughts of contentment or happiness comes from within, and that when looked at from a different perspective, outside influences shouldn’t affect how I feel. Anyway, thanks for this post!

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      I agree! Just don’t beat yourself up when you’re in a mood. I like to find a distraction, then it doesn’t seem like that big a deal after a bit.

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      1. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        things are never as bad (or as good) as they seem !

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      2. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        YES 💯%
        beating oneself up ONLY makes things worse, …
        so if “it” started out unpleasant – Y do we all tend to add insult to our own names injuries?

        My best guess is habitual patterns of thought that become programmed “knee JERK (!) reactions/responses”

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      3. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Indeed! It’s a fine line, because a hidden trap in that is false positivity, which only leads to more strain and more negativity. I like to just settle into the realization that I can at least turn in the direction of positivity and reach for the feeling of relief, even if I can’t feel immediately positive…

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      4. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        that’s a great attitude
        & a SKILL
        thanks for sharing

        I agree, …
        the “light” is always ON but sometimes it still feels dark & knowing where one’s internal switch / “how to keep the pilot light lit🔥”
        IS a relief

        & so TRUE about the “false positivity” / “fake it ‘till u make it”
        it potentially sets one up for disappointment

        It’s so important to feel what one feels and let that 💩 run it’s course

        Talking about “it”can make it worse if the focus is on the “it”
        talking/communicating also helps if the focus is on release & relief

        what we focus on GROWS, whether it’s the problem or the solution is up to our own internal gardeners 🌻

        I’m guessing that’s Y “nothingness” is such a good meditation 🧘🏼‍♀️ focus 🎯
        bc sometimes “NOthing” is the solution &
        BEing in the stillness & silence of “nothingness” resolves the “it” 💛

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      5. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        I agree! Daily meditation can definitely scratch that itch. Some regular stillness is important!

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      6. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        regular stillness is AS essential as regular movement…. #balance

        balance is different for ev1, so there’s no “magic formula”
        AND balance itself is a dynamic (vs static) state

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      7. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Agree! Balance is an act, not a state!

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      8. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        it’s dynamic
        static-ness

        the duality built into the principle of balance makes me laugh

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      9. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        macro static, micro dynamic

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      10. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        YES !
        &
        simultaneously

        micro-dynamic
        &
        macro-static

        (for instance, a calm ocean with all it’s moving parts )

        macro-dynamic
        &
        micro-static

        (for instance, holding ones breath, yet the entirety of the human body, EVEN the lungs, are never STILL, not communicating, nor
        NOT in flux;
        or contracting a muscle
        and all systems beyond the human body)

        I LOVE how this works both ways –
        & truly depicts the depth to which “balance” = fluctuation

        & “stillness” is a perception;
        a striving towards a state of the most even keeled experience of our senses, both physical and emotional

        thx, @dirtyscifibuddha

        love the thoughts 💭
        this conversation has generated 💝

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      11. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Absolutely! Love it!

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  7. larry trasciatti Avatar
    larry trasciatti

    Sometimes it’s at least partially uncontrollable but most of it always depends upon sheer will power

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Will power helps!

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      1. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        will-POWER is very powerful when consciously & conscientiously applied

        Mind over matter is more than a “saying”
        It can create one’s experience

        Your initial post is fabulous… it does take ppl lifetimesssss plural to achieve this state of awareness &
        It is a constant choice
        being aware of ones own “choice points” is so critical bc that’s the tipping point, where “it controls u” or “u control it”

        cheering u on DirtySciFiBuddha

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Indeed! I also find the more I internally relax, the more control I’m given. There’s irony there, for you.

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      3. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        re: relaxing & control

        it’s like a muscle
        & if a muscle is in a state of constant contraction, it’ll seize up

        the relaxing of the muscle allows for it’s release (thereby gaining strength, endurance, “control”)

        so using the muscle is just as important as relaxing the muscle💪🏼🧠

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      4. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Yep. Gotta listen to that inner guidance!

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      5. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        I’ve truly begun to USE my emotions as an
        e-GPS (emotional GPS)
        and understand my “inner-guidance” is guided by this finely tuned, highly receptive & EXTREMELY ACCURATE internal communication network …
        took me a long time to tune in to that navigational voice
        and even longer to trust AND follow its “directional advice”

        it’s more fun now that I understand what wisdom my inner voice is offering up & even anxiety is becoming less cumbersome & fear more tolerable because I know it’s a warning message of some sort … use caution ⚠️ ; slow down; BREATHE, listen; stretch, move, pause; STOP; change direction; attitude adjustment ; etc….

        growth is a cool process, especially when one is “all in” & open to whatever comes next

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      6. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Without mental static, intuition definitely becomes a powerful guide!

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    2. eigram9 Avatar
      eigram9

      I’ve found too-
      WILL power is a lot of the puzzle …
      determination
      both as in sheer might
      AND as in choosing wisely …

      worrying about stuff seems to make “it” worse
      & YES
      there is an amount of “doing all one can”
      however, surrendering (NOT giving up, but giving IN)
      is crucial
      for myself,
      or I’d be as stark raving mad as I think I am
      when really I’m fine
      It’s just “another day at the office”

      sleep is MAJOR important –
      it’s like recharging ones cell phone,
      the body, mind & spirit NEED the reset

      when stuff is simply “too much” – we all have our tolerance levels & support in any form
      is also necessary

      it’s not a sign of weakness, but rather the ultimate act of courage & strength to ask for help

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      1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        I’m with you on the sleep! Daytime naps are pretty important to me, lol!

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      2. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        i enjoy a good “victory nap” ANYtime of day/night 🙂

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  8. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
    DirtySciFiBuddha

    Haha! I’ve been there and it’s tough. It got easier once I approached it like a game, but maybe that’s just me.

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    1. eigram9 Avatar
      eigram9

      I approach it like I’m a character in a tv show AND
      I’m also writing for my character …
      it feels less serious that way, like the “serious stuff” is less heavy
      & it all has a sense of meaningless meaning
      if that makes sense (!)

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      1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        The pervasive futility that resonates with truth! I think I understand.

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      2. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        yeah…
        meaningLESSly living a meaningFUL life

        unless meaninglessness IS the meaning (!)

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      3. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Love the world play! 😄

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      4. eigram9 Avatar
        eigram9

        Thx – words are my friends 🙂

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    2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Sometimes it’s hard to have fun with it, but for me in those times I try to celebrate the small victories and try to find the opportunities that consequently arise, which is kinda like a game in my eyes…

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    3. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      There’s a point, I suspect, where moving forward becomes more a matter of relaxing and allowing, rather than a paranoid search for if I did everything right or what I should do next. Maybe that’s just me, though…

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    4. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      It’s happening! More sleep! 😄

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    5. eigram9 Avatar
      eigram9

      smALL victories needn’t be downgraded ….
      ALL victories R victories
      regardless of the “size” or scope

      Yes to celebrating victories 🦋

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    6. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Well it sounds like you’re finally reaping a bit of reward for the hard work and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Soon enough, you’ll be able to nap during the day, relaxing in a comfy pile of pillows and blankets! 😊

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    7. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      You’ll get those soon enough! And then…dog naps! You’ll never get out bed! 😁

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    8. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Ugh, I can relate! Nothing pisses me off more than when I’m in bed trying to relax, but my body and mind know I should be up and doing something. I get itchy, my hands and feet will sweat, and my body randomly holds tension. There’s gotta be that balance of inflow and outflow.

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  9. eigram9 Avatar
    eigram9

    irony is the spice of life
    😏

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  10. gwengrant Avatar
    gwengrant

    Thanks for this.
    Gwen.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      You’re welcome!

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  11. cielotech Avatar
    cielotech

    Hello There. LOVE your posts and subject matter. Thank you for visiting my blogs. Take care. B.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Thank you! I’m happy to support. Happy blogging!

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  12. Lorena Black Avatar
    Lorena Black

    Reblogged this on Let your soul and spirit fly
    Into the mystic     and commented:
    Spoken.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Thanks for the reblog!

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      1. Lorena Black Avatar
        Lorena Black

        I really enjoyed it, thank you for sharing.

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Absolutely! My pleasure.

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  13. Priscilla Bettis Avatar
    Priscilla Bettis

    I agree, happiness starts on the inside.

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  14. Pam Ainslie Avatar
    Pam Ainslie

    Reblogged this on poetryprayersandsermons310431314.wordpress.com.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Thank you!

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  15. Anand Bose Avatar
    Anand Bose

    Nice

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  16. Dianne Lehmann Avatar
    Dianne Lehmann

    Very well said. My husband needs to hear this and actually take it in. Well, me too, for that matter. Thanks!

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      All part of my quest to continue devolving into a happy idiot. 😅

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  17. Yorkeled Avatar
    Yorkeled

    Happiness to me is a lack of feeling stress, anxiety, or a combination therein. Almost like the nostalgia of childhood and utterly carefree. This to me is the essence of happiness boiled down. Everything else are contributors or variables enhancing the core emotion.

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  18. legacy Avatar
    legacy

    Happiness is a quiet day were i do not have to act against malevolant degenerates! were i open my laptop and i have mail!…..or spooning my muse lol!

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Think you’ll be happy today, then! 😉

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      1. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        moderately happy returned already!! you won’t survive the read! lol 💦

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        I very much enjoyed reading about how you’d treat me! 😏

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      3. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        Well art comes in many forms. lingusitc lovers as your always in the wrong place….just terminating some family extensions for redirection!

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  19. legacy Avatar
    legacy

    Will i ….we shall see not recieved either yet! lol and i m desperate for my ….. ohhh ohh oh hhhh

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      You’ve had it while reading my words, though, haven’t you? 😉

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      1. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        mini raptures, cellular spikes but no real climax…nearly taken the gingerbread man thanks to your naughty words! 😜

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Getting all hot and bothered, eh? 😏

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      3. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        Horny 🔥 😈 my guards are restless! They want someone to play with! i just ate spicy chicken…..uhhh no taste buds….on fire!

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      4. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Probably similar to when you read one of my emails! 😉

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      5. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        lol! saves me trawling the web for other representations… sometimes i actually believe ti might hapen! lol and then i sit and realise you are just passing your time! x you are right though it gets my juices flowing!😈

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      6. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Gets the juices flowing, fingers moving! 🤣

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      7. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        Tantric; jazz hands it messes with my sensory! The idea of possibility makes me 🔥 😈nier than i already am

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      8. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Combined with the kisses and skin-chilling breath, you wouldn’t be able to resist! 😏

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      9. legacy Avatar
        legacy

        i do not have to worry about that the likley hood you will be sat by me is zero, they will just take you down to the allotted bike! i am a wasted safe! 😥 you will just have to crack it whilst they are busy celebrating sitting with their murderers! lol 😏 💀. 😂

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