In my opinion, people often mistake quitting with giving up.

Giving up is swearing off an endeavor due to an overwhelming amount of immediate stress.

Quitting is when I allow myself to knowingly make the wrong decision.  Those small, ego-borne missteps pile up, channeling me into situations where I have to loudly declare that I’m not giving up.

Sometimes it’s unavoidable, but why allow myself to get in those situations at all?  Why not engage in daily discipline, daily vigilance, and hold myself accountable long before Life does?

Musings, Volume 1, available on Amazon Kindle:  Musings, Volume 1

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  1. Great distinction. I struggle with the language of discomfort vs pain with my children (personal and professional). In order to grow, you HAVE to struggle. It’s life. But I’ve yet to find a way to say this well. Because, I don’t want people to suffer and be miserable – I think people should be able to quit if things are really not going well. But they need to know when it’s okay to push and feel uncomfortable a bit.

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    • Absolutely. A certain level of discomfort facilitates growth, but too much facilitates damage. Basically, one has to be trained and raised to constantly assess whether they’re growing or getting damaged. A healthy amount of exercise versus a stupid amount is a good example of this. Conditioning also complicates things; once you’re conditioned, you can take more discomfort, and you have to be even more vigilant about assessing where you’re at because you can’t use the same standards as before.

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    • Sometimes big ones will ambush you out of nowhere, but yes, I agree—I believe (especially in the first world), the vast majority of problems start small. Even in dicier places, it’s not catastrophe after catastrophe. Smaller problems tend to magnify quicker, but the same principle still applies (in my opinion).

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  2. I don’t see a distinction between the terms. Is quitting smoking different from giving up smoking? Quitting isn’t necessarily a wrong decision. It depends on what you are quitting and why.

    Perhaps accepting defeat is the concept you are talking about, and there it is true that vigilance and good sense can go a long way to avoiding it. Know what you can achieve and approach it with the right strategy.

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    • Those words are simply placeholders I use for a conceptual differentiation. What I’m really emphasizing is to pare back the nobility and chest-thumping that comes with the idea of pushing through a crisis, and to pay attention to each small decision so you can minimize the chances that such a crisis will ever come to pass.

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  3. Well, I see a difference. Quitting is actively deciding not to proceed with whatever endeavor before you’ve wasted your time giving it everything. Giving up, on the other hand, is when you’ve tried and tried to achieve whatever it is and not succeedecd. You stop trying. You give up.

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    • Understandable. These are just my personal connotations I use to emphasize that it seems that many folks will ignore the smaller, day-to-day decisions and focus on the big “crises moments.” When in fact, they could have, in all likelihood, avoided that crisis moment if they had tended to the smaller problems, before they magnified.

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  4. What is it called when you do the same thing over and over expecting to get a different result? I choose not to say I gave up but that maybe I quit because the endeavor had no other outcome.

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