Kent Wayne

Musings

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There’s a gigantic difference between “Do what works” and “Do what feels good.”  The first approach is functionality based; it requires constant, brutally honest assessment (so I can check my stances, make sure they’re still relevant, and also so I can ensure that I’m behaving ethically).  The second approach—while able to deliver results—can easily be hijacked by confirmation bias and desire to indulge, incentivizing me to justify lack of results with outdated philosophies:  modalities that appeal to my emotions but completely neglect function. 

But hey, I’m free to do whatever I want, right?  😉  (personally, although the first approach may not always “feel good,” I find it more fulfilling in the long term)

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12 responses to “Musings”

  1. Opher Avatar
    Opher

    Sadly I tend to do what feels good without regard to success.

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  2. Mel Gutiér Avatar
    Mel Gutiér

    Need to reflect on this more. 😀

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Reflect away, Mel! 😀

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  3. rodericktmacdonald Avatar
    rodericktmacdonald

    Interesting, given what I just blogged! Am I following what feels good, I wonder, and then hoping it works? Confirmation bias is a beast to escape! Thanks for the musings, even if it makes me have to think hard again, hahaha!

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      No problem! I’ve seen the talented few who achieve amazing success just on what feels good, but that approach isn’t for me. Life has kicked my butt too many a time for me to go with just my feelings. I use them as a guide, not a rule.

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      1. rodericktmacdonald Avatar
        rodericktmacdonald

        I hear you! Balancing head vs heart is important. I’m learning so much right now, all the ‘rules’ can get overwhelming, but you can’t just retreat to your comfort zone! It is a tricky balance.

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        Exactly! This is represented in a lot of underworld myths; the hero has to have a firm grasp of fundamentals as they descend into chaos, but there is gold to be had if you can get past the dragon. The hero is required to integrate some darkness or reconcile some evil within themselves, but if they can do it, then they’re rewarded by their troubles (like Bilbo was when he owned up to his duty as a thief).

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  4. Kris Avatar
    Kris

    Feeling good is nice. Yet, you are so right…often when we do what is ‘right’ we tend to feel better in the long run. Kit Kats are an indulgence. I should refrain from them because of my life with type one Diabetes. When I avoid the chocolate, I feel better. Sometimes!
    This truism works in other more nefarious areas as well. (sticking tongue out at Man Child for being so damn wise!)

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      It’s life that wise, dear! I’ve had the privilege (curse?) to get my butt kicked enough by it that I’ve had to have some uncomfortably truthful moments with myself, LOL! I go with the once a week cheat day. Makes me feel like I’ve earned my cookies and brownies, haha!

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      1. Kris Avatar
        Kris

        People forget that part- to give themselves a break.

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      2. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
        DirtySciFiBuddha

        I agree! The whole point of being disciplined (for me) is so I can REALLY enjoy the periodic lapse without guilt or second thoughts! 😀

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      3. Kris Avatar
        Kris

        Perfect.

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