From what I’ve seen, many seem to think that admitting failure breeds negative self-worth. But I believe that it’s crucial to admit failure in order to grow from it, and that confusing that admittance with negative self-worth is an indulgence in ego, or a shortcoming in critical thinking. We should be honest about our failures; it’s part of the process in not just achieving success in this or that, but in achieving the ULTIMATE success: using all our experiences—not just the good ones—as ways to hone ourselves into the people we wish to eventually become.
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35 responses to “Musings”
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We’ll said! Difficult to remember when it’s our natural inclination to conceal our shortcomings, but definitely food for thought.
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Well I’m all for concealing shortcomings from others; no one really needs to know my life story or an in-depth breakdown of who I am, but I believe it’s never constructive to conceal my shortcomings from my self. 🙂
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I think it’s a defense mechanism. Speaking personally, I’ve found it very difficult in the past to give up certain worldviews because in most circumstances, they would make me feel like I was “elite” or “better” and give me an avenue upon which to look down on others. Looking down on others prevented me from learning from them, however, so now I try to check that tendency.
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I am a stroke survivor. After given the all clear from the hospital and a weeks rest, I returned to my day job. The same job I’d been doing for over 20 years. 3 years of struggling I had to admit defeat and tell my bosses that I could no longer handle the demands and stress of the post. Naturally pride was hurt in my admission and fear for the future. Thankfully I was given a new position in the same company with minimal stress.
Admitting failure is hard, not because of the action, but in what the future has in store after the act.
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Indeed! Extremely well put, and I wish you the best of luck in the future in regards to your trials! Thank You Mr. Chris! 🙂
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I find humble folks who willingly embrace their shortcomings and flaws to be incredibly attractive. We’re all human. We all make mistake. We’re all just doing the best we can each day.
I think a fear of mistakes also discourages exploration. It’s one of the reasons there are so many remakes and reboots. Everyone’s looking for a guarantee. No growth! Boring!
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Exactly! It may have been an evolutionary advantage when we were constantly surrounded by danger, but this is a new world from the one our cavemen ancestors had to face, and we should act accordingly! 🙂
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Hello from the dusty floor, yep, back down here again and you know what? it’s pretty sweet down here so I may just stay a wee while longer and bounce back stronger then ever – no shame in admitting that. Great Musing
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I’ve known to take some pretty sweet naps down there myself, haha! Thank you for the kind words Ms. Ibiza!
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Go see redwood trees? You like those? I’m actually pretty boring; I crank out my writing and schoolwork, work out or zoom around in beautiful SF on my bike, then I eat a pot gummy and force myself to chill out to some Netflix LOL!
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Great pick! Not to get too sentimental, but redwood trees are different than others; there’s this super pronounced stillness they emanate, and you feel like they’re watching you in a noncreepy way. Personally, I feel like they know every good or bad thing you did, and they forgive you for all of it unconditionally and accept you for who you are. It’s really cool being around em.
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Agreed. Denial won’t help to solve a real problem. I have worried about other people “writing me off,” but you’re right. Someday we will look back on our failures and be proud of how far we’ve come. That’s the plan, anyways.
Keep at it!
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Thank You friend! Yes, persistence is necessary to stay afloat, while learning from mistakes is necessary to make progress!
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