Kent Wayne

Musings

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When I’m stuck in negativity, I know “this too shall pass,” is objectively true. But if I harangue myself with that phrase when it doesn’t resonate, I just prolong my negativity.

So I accept whatever thought arises naturally, even if it’s false. It could be “this will last forever,” “this is hopeless,” etc. I don’t agree with it and I don’t amplify it with conscious thought (justifying or rationalizing why it’s endless or hopeless), but I let that irrational, emotional part of me be heard and felt within my own mind. No one else needs to know what I’m thinking, but I like to respect/acknowledge that illogical part of me, so that it can have its say, we can politely agree to disagree, then both go our separate ways. It is a piece of me, after all, and I’d rather not fight myself while I’m going about my day.

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  1. Huilahi Avatar
    Huilahi

    Meaningful musings. I can relate to this because I have also been experiencing negative feelings lately. I’ve come to also accept these feelings as a part of who I am. Being an Autistic person, I’ve faces several mental health issues that have prevented me from being happy in life. Depression is a common phrase that I often go through, and I’ve come to accept it for what it is. That being said, there are ways to combat this feeling of negativity. Being a passionate film critic, I’ve found that movies can be a therapeutic way to combat the negative feelings I face in life. There are certain movies I often turn to when I’m in a bad mood that seem to help me get through the day. “La La Land” is the perfect movie for such an occasion. A joyous musical, the film has always helped me get through rough phases in my life. Here’s why I recommend it:

    "La La Land" (2016)- Movie Review

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    1. V.M.Sang Avatar
      V.M.Sang

      Negativity and depression do pass, but it’s not easy to see that when in the midst of it. I think simply accepting what is happening is better than fighting it.

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  2. Laura Avatar
    Laura

    I try not to allow the negativity to fester in my mind, either. I can be in a bad mood, but I see it never really lasts for long. It just doesn’t feel fun to wallow in it for long periods of time. But I also understand where you come from in that you objectively know “this too shall pass” is true, but sometimes in those moments it doesn’t always feel like it.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Yeah, I think I used to wallow in it because it felt like it gave me more control, like as an edgy cynic I could say look, things are going wrong, just like I said they would. Not only would I be wrong, it just got tiring.

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  3. The Classic Angels & Magick Avatar
    The Classic Angels & Magick

    It’s a familiar story. I just accept the feeling and drift off to Nothingness and darkness…..

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  4. H.B. Berlow Avatar
    H.B. Berlow

    Unless you can control it, what benefit does worrying about it achieve?

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  5. cathymack62 Avatar
    cathymack62

    I love that idea! Let your brain have the negative thoughts and then just move on! The moving on is what’s hard for me though.

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  6. Dmroberts Author Avatar
    Dmroberts Author

    Being a 99% optimistic person I took have had a sudden spate of this and it really throws me through a loop. I don’t like it one bit and hope that ‘this too will pass’ hurries up and does it’s thing. Great post as always 😊

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  7. carriecarrie142014 Avatar
    carriecarrie142014

    I really like this!🌷

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  8. gary winstone Avatar
    gary winstone

    I totally get where youry coming from.

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    1. gary winstone Avatar
      gary winstone

      *you’re

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  9. Jonathan Avatar
    Jonathan

    I like this, and like most of your musings, I seem to be going through whatever you are writing at the time that you post it.

    I am going through a negative phase myself. The best part is after I have honored this part of me, getting to the point where I can “comically catastrophize.” The part where I am making fun of myself and poking fun at my feelings, and let my twisted sense of humor run a muck. Once I reach that point, the negativity is gone and I am able to see the silver lining.

    Not there yet today, but I know it is coming.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      It can ironically make dark times into funny memories, in my experience!

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  10. Phil A Davis Avatar
    Phil A Davis

    Hi Kent – I relate to Stephen King on this subject. We (writers) are a reflection and voice box, and if someone takes offense, I’m sorry. But. if it offended you, why did you keep reading?
    My work is tame compared to yours – but so what? I wouldn’t feel comfortable writing like you, but I do enjoy reading your stories – it takes me out of my safe and cozy world. KEEP WITH IT.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Yeah, I figure let em be offended, I’ll just keep enjoying myself as much as possible!

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  11. Reece M. Nolan Avatar
    Reece M. Nolan

    Don’t call it negativity. Call it “surprise moodmaxxing” for later. It’s like pulling reps, except you’re sad for a bit.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Nice twist! I like it!

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  12. shredbobted Avatar
    shredbobted

    Reminded me of this: ”Nobody Has to Know Your Mind” by John R. Miller-

    ”I can hear the frogs doin’ their thing/

    Hear the sea of frogs doin’ their thing/

    Through the brambles, back in the marsh/

    Where life’s short and the livin’s harsh . . ./

    They’re still singin’”

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  13. bigskybuckeye Avatar
    bigskybuckeye

    Each of us needs to find our own unique way of dealing with the ever-present negativity around us.

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  14. Chicpreneur Avatar
    Chicpreneur

    Most times Negativity when used well turns into o positivity..

    I like this.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Indeed! Oftentimes, we can get something positive out of it with creativity or a little patience, sometimes it just turns into something positive over time…

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  15. authorstephanieparkermckean Avatar
    authorstephanieparkermckean

    Wise way to treat negativity – go your separate ways! Thanks. God bless.

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  16. Chelsea C. Walker Avatar
    Chelsea C. Walker

    I do the same. I’ve learned that to ignore or suppress the different parts of me–no matter how unpleasant they may be–results in the emotion or thought exploding unhealthily at another time. So, best to acknowledge and listen, as you say, and then “go our separate ways.”

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Indeed! And since the unpleasant stuff is literally a part of me, I feel like it’d be like my right hand beating up my left hand, or something along those lines.

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      1. Chelsea C. Walker Avatar
        Chelsea C. Walker

        For sure!

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