Kent Wayne

Musings

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Many seem intent on condemning themselves, even though they’re with that same self every hour of every day; through ingestion, excretion, every second of sleep, and in other private moments. No one but you sees the entirety of your existence, from mundane to profound to exciting to routine.

I’d rather not spend energy beating myself up, especially since I’m with myself 24/7. In my opinion, that’s working against my own intentions–it’s like needlessly tensing an opposing muscle, when I’m actively trying to contract its counterpart. I understand the need for introspection and course correction, but all too often in my past, I let that spiral into self-flagellation.

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21 responses to “Musings”

  1. Violet Lentz Avatar
    Violet Lentz

    I like the way you’re thinking

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  2. aldlischronicles Avatar
    aldlischronicles

    I read somewhere – embarrassed to say I can’t remember where – that emotions are a secondary central nervous system. They’re there to tell us when something is out of balance in body and mind. Looked at that way no emotion is bad, only a signal. Guilt and shame and embarrassment are part of a necessary package. We should listen, learn from and fix mistakes where we can, live with it when we can’t, and then move on without punishing ourselves, because the only person we absolutely have to like and respect in our lives is ourselves, we’re sunk if we can’t. — This message seems similar to yours, in a way? 🙂

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      They’re definitely important! If ignored, they can hijack physical function.

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  3. DragonflyRose Avatar
    DragonflyRose

    I deeply relate to this 💚

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  4. Shawn Bailey Avatar
    Shawn Bailey

    I think I speak for all bacteria and microorganisms when I say that your portrayal of flagellation lacks much to be desired. As their only mode of transportation, I can only assume you wish for their stagnation and, one would assume, their untimely death. I consider this a microaggression on a macro scale. #FreeYourFlagella #MovementIsLife

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Death to the flagellators! Let there be war! 🤣

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  5. AngelaTimms (Writes as Martine Moon) Avatar
    AngelaTimms (Writes as Martine Moon)

    Yet you alone are the only one entitled to truly comment on who you are and what you do. You are entitled to question as that is the way to learn. Self doubt is inevitable but it cannot be the master. You may need to question yourself as then you know when you make a decision the ultimate critic is there on your shoulder, the only one who deserves to be, yourself. Our imperfections are our perfections, they make us uniquely different. So if you are disliking yourself you are putting yourself in a pointless situation. You have what you have and it is totally your own decision to be how you are in all your ways. You can’t blame society or upbringing. If you realise it is anything else then you are wise enough to change it and to be who you want to be. So be careful that you aren’t being in certain ways to be rebellious or to stand against the crowd. As was so well said in this post. When you shut the door, only you have to answer to yourself. I found ultimate happiness once on a hillside, living on my own all week and with the silence of the only conversation for the week being in my head or with goats and dogs. That was a time of peace as I was happy with who I was, my choices and what I was doing with nobody else to influence it. That was when I realised how much I let others ruin my happiness.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      In that light, we have an incredible amount of power and freedom!

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  6. jerryschellhammer Avatar
    jerryschellhammer

    Yeah, don’t beat yourself over it. Just let it all flow. Whatever, your intentions in life, punishing yourself over a mistake or error in judgment just leads to second-guessing.

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  7. Author Frieda Avatar
    Author Frieda

    So true!

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  8. earlthepearl137 Avatar
    earlthepearl137

    Many years ago I asked my friend, Tommy, where he would rate himself on a scale of 1 to 10. Immediately, he said 10. I said, be serious, where would you rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10. Again, he said 10. I asked him how he could possibly think that he was a 10, and he replied, “If I don’t love myself, who will?”

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Tommy’s pretty wise!

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  9. Jake Avatar
    Jake

    The older I get, I’ve learned to chill out. A lesson learned by my neighbor during covid. He was like people should stop complaining, now you have time to work on yourself. Just step back and chill out.
    Best advice I’ve gotten in the last 5 years.

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  10. COMICSPREE Avatar
    COMICSPREE

    Great post! Self love is first and foremost. After mastering it then we’ll be on your way to loving everyone else and appreciating the little things around. But I get it. It’s human nature to be hard on one self.

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  11. sbwheeler Avatar
    sbwheeler

    Judgement obscures insight. Whether we ‘like’ or ‘dislike’ it’s the same. We can, of course, simply relax into the flow, and that seems to be your choice and advice. Or we can try to understand what we see, and for that we might try a bit of ‘conscious suffering’. Western attitudes seem to favour ‘striving to be perfect’, without ever knowing what ‘perfect’ really is. If we want ‘perfection’, it seems to me we should first learn what that is – and we can’t do that by listening to the opinions of others if they are floundering themselves. And yet we absorb those opinions and treat them as true. Good luck and God speed.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Wise words! Good luck and God speed to you as well

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  12. Shimmering Muse Avatar
    Shimmering Muse

    Well said. Thanks for the reminder.

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    1. DirtySciFiBuddha Avatar
      DirtySciFiBuddha

      Thanks for the share!

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  14. V.M.Sang Avatar
    V.M.Sang

    You are correct. We live with ourselves 24/7 and are the only ones who do.

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  15. Michael Williams Avatar
    Michael Williams

    I like this Buddha. this whole movement on “self-improvement” was great up to a certain point before it became dogmatic and an obsession for many people. if you’re you – you’re you. there’s some things you can do about it but to expect perfection on all angles is a dream perpetuated by this “self-improvement” money pit. Mike

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