When things have gone awry, I used to inwardly match the urgency of the moment. Over time, I learned that even though I might need to be outwardly frantic, I prefer to internally compose myself as fast as possible. Personally, I get there through acceptance, which may appear as resignation. ”It is what it is,” “that happened,” and other noninflammatory mental stances. Ironically, these stances allow me to exert a stronger influence; instead of being driven by reactive fear and/or anger, they settle my perception and increase the possibility I will glimpse hidden opportunities or unexpected advantages.
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Acceptance is never resignation if you are actively (and rationally) working to rectify the situation. I guess for me, resignation has a negative connotation. Might not for everyone.
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This is so valid in my experience – for the inner journeys. But if someone or “thing” as the case may be is holding one of your loved ones hostage, outwardly matching or surpassing the urgency of the moment is necessitated.
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You might have more, you never know! I’ve heard people in bad car accidents tend to have the worst cases. I just try and do what works for me and have fun with life. 🙂
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“It is what it is” — a phrase that exasperates people when I use it. But it often applies most when things seem most dire.
Accepting that things can’t change, and then seeing what you can best do to work with them, is one of the best attitudes I’ve learned to adopt.
I exchange in a lot of debates at the community I manage, mostly healthy ones though where everyone just wants a conversation. We’ve come to realize majority of those who can’t “agree to disagree” end up failing their arguements since they’re forcing another person to change to their ways rather than listening to what another person might need.
I used to be that way when I was younger, but since I’ve become older, I get more easily frustrated and I seem to go into a panic like catatonic state.
It’s a wonderful way to embrace acceptance. To turn an “it is what it is” around and see it as an opportunity. We all have those times, acknowledging the honest emotions is essential to finding a path forward. Thanks for sharing.
Acceptance is one of the strongest forces we can apply to our lives. Our emotion centers of the brain (amygdala) can easily override higher decision making areas. Accepting allows processing of emotions and has the ability to literally change your brain.
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We need to get out of our own way…. !!! Fear, doubt, etc etc..hinder self growth!!! https://ruparaoruminates.wordpress.com/
I appreciate your positive take on the inevitable roadblocks that will arise in front of us. We need to let go and keep moving toward the next open gate.
Kent Wayne 
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