Abiding in subjective sufficiency (believing that I am enough, I have enough, and that I can extract opportunities and benefits from challenges) seems to maximize my fulfillment, and turns life from a horror movie into an adventure.
I’ve done the opposite, where I framed everything as a reason to berate myself, to punish myself, to see myself as unworthy. That’s no longer my preference. Outwardly, both paths may look the same as improvements are sought and tasks are completed, but inwardly, I’d rather live through an adventure than a Sisyphean torture.
That’s just me, though. Others might be on a different path to fulfillment.
Love this approach to, as you say, turn life from a horror movie into an adventure!
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Wise! Ultimately, all of it–happiness, contentment, misery, worry–is an inside job. We create it and we can choose differently. Obviously things can (and will) happen to and around us, but how much of it we gobble up is our call.
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Very good read….
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Such a relief when this happens.
Gwen.
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I’m glad you have rejected “ensmallening” and embraced the challenge to “embiggen”.
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you know what they say: if you believe you can or you can’t – either one is true!
Mike
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subjective sufficiency, a nice new term for the day. thanks for this musing
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Wise words. I’m trying to do the same, and not letting things get on top of me. I’ve become a worrier as I’ve got older. I must stop it.
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I believe you can. You deserve it!
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Agreed. This is so poignant, that I was inspired to write my own musing on it.
Enjoy: https://gaiasophiaofearth.wordpress.com/2024/09/25/preferences/
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Glad I could spread the inspiration! 😁
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Right, ok. But did I inspire you to make an attempt at recycling at all?
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I’m a big fan of recycling! I hear they’re making great progress on garbage in the Pacific!
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Bullying myself is so much fun, though. I mean, I know all my weaknesses. Like Swiss Rolls (the second pack, not the first) and comparing myself to more successful authors. I will, however, support you on your journey.
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Right on, bro! I’ve been down the dark roads of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder to the point of suicide and nearly losing everything. It’s taken me years to get my ass on the right path. A lot of false starts and falling down, but I’ve learned a few things on the way. You are absolutely right! We deserve good lives and it takes the same amount of energy, sometimes less, to do what makes us and usually everyone else happy.
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Good for you! Yes, we deserve it. I’m just learning the difference between focus and effort. In my experience, the energy is secondary to focus.
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So true! Wanting, wishing and desiring things, whatever they may be, sets us up for pain.
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Thank you for sharing the positivity of this post. Every day we have a choice, may we find the smallest of goodness.
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God never intends for us to torture ourselves or to live in a land of torture rather than abundance and adventure. God bless.
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You as well! 🤗
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