For me, the optimal state of growth entails a steady, positive focus on what’s in front of me. There’s no self-flagellation, jealousy of those with status and/or success, or sneering at any with less fortune. Just an easy and open regard of how I can perform as best I can.
If I win or lose, so be it. I’m after that flow and absorption, because in the end, we all die anyway; harmonizing with the moment is what I have found to be most enjoyable.
I like your outlook. I’ve never really thought about looking at it as going after flow and absorption of positivity. Admittedly, I sometimes get jealous of others who have found success where I want to be successful. It’s usually when I’m super tired or not my usual self. I’m definitely working on it every day.
I’m with you on that. Then there are moments where I’m fine with everything that’s happening, and if someone is having more success than me, I shrug in nonchalance. For me it’s a matter of massaging my perspective into that state, and not beating myself up if I can’t immediately get into it.
Your final few words speak volumes! There is so much strength in harmonizing with any given moment.
Absolutely. They are the realest, most satisfying points of leverage throughout our existence.
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I do self flagellation really, really well. It’s the last of a few bad habits I seem to wrestle with. Jealousy and envy were habits I left behind me a long time ago but occasionally I’ll catch myself when I feel their echoes try and snatch at me. As I approach middle age, I seem to
…be able to practice gratitude more readily. I am content with what my life is and I aspire only to remain gracious.
I’ll have flareups as well. I started out as pretty negative-minded, so if I find myself in a rut, I usually find comfort from contemplating futility and insignificance (in a positive way, kind of like the feeling of vastness that comes from looking at the stars) and how my perspective just needs a little ease and reeling in.
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Also positive growth requires also requires tuning out people who want you to fail and crazy people leaving feedback that makes no sense.
Absolutely, I agree being in flow state is the ideal. An easily attainable goal.
Recently I have begun to absorb positivity and the If I win or lose, so be it mentality, the important things is at least I tried.
Sounds like a great way to look at life! It’s what I aim for, but I am really really unkind to myself about too many things. I try to be positive in life, but that voice inside my head is just an asshole…
Kent Wayne 
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