For me, the optimal state of growth entails a steady, positive focus on what’s in front of me. There’s no self-flagellation, jealousy of those with status and/or success, or sneering at any with less fortune. Just an easy and open regard of how I can perform as best I can.
If I win or lose, so be it. I’m after that flow and absorption, because in the end, we all die anyway; harmonizing with the moment is what I have found to be most enjoyable.
Dirty Sci-Fi Buddha 
I like your outlook. I’ve never really thought about looking at it as going after flow and absorption of positivity. Admittedly, I sometimes get jealous of others who have found success where I want to be successful. It’s usually when I’m super tired or not my usual self. I’m definitely working on it every day.
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I’m with you on that. Then there are moments where I’m fine with everything that’s happening, and if someone is having more success than me, I shrug in nonchalance. For me it’s a matter of massaging my perspective into that state, and not beating myself up if I can’t immediately get into it.
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Your final few words speak volumes! There is so much strength in harmonizing with any given moment.
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Absolutely. They are the realest, most satisfying points of leverage throughout our existence.
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I do self flagellation really, really well. It’s the last of a few bad habits I seem to wrestle with. Jealousy and envy were habits I left behind me a long time ago but occasionally I’ll catch myself when I feel their echoes try and snatch at me. As I approach middle age, I seem to
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…be able to practice gratitude more readily. I am content with what my life is and I aspire only to remain gracious.
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Noble aspirations! I share those with you!
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I’ll have flareups as well. I started out as pretty negative-minded, so if I find myself in a rut, I usually find comfort from contemplating futility and insignificance (in a positive way, kind of like the feeling of vastness that comes from looking at the stars) and how my perspective just needs a little ease and reeling in.
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
SOUNDS GOOD TO ME!
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Thanks for the reblog!!
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U R WELCOME, DirtySciFiBuddha-!
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Also positive growth requires also requires tuning out people who want you to fail and crazy people leaving feedback that makes no sense.
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Absolutely. I believe they’re processing their own negativity, and it’s important to let them be so they can work through it. I don’t need to jump in and get entangled in it.
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I feel like a lot of people are dealing with their own negativity which sees the current rise in trolls.
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To me it’s 100% projection. It’s not a cathartic activity, in my opinion, so much as a distraction from one’s own discontent. Kind of a pyrrhic relief, if you will
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Absolutely, I agree being in flow state is the ideal. An easily attainable goal.
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I believe it’s more practical than a lot of folks think, specifically in terms of generating synchronicity
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Your musings always give me much food for thought. If only Everyone would (could) live in this way.
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Recently I have begun to absorb positivity and the If I win or lose, so be it mentality, the important things is at least I tried.
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Indeed! And that you did your best to enjoy the unfolding of it
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Sounds like a great way to look at life! It’s what I aim for, but I am really really unkind to myself about too many things. I try to be positive in life, but that voice inside my head is just an asshole…
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I know what you mean! Sometimes, the best I can do is partially ignore it or dim the volume, but I think it’s important to not wallow in it and let it become a strong habit
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Interesting narrative
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Love it.
Gwen.
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great wisdom that resonates deeply 🙂
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Agreed! My goal is to best myself every day in every task.
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