Tag: buddhism

I view emotional management as an existential game, in which continual acceptance–which often means including/acknowledging my internal negativity–is my present moment aim. For me, that’s the surest way back to positivity: by allowing whatever arises its own existence, without necessarily agreeing with it and/or grudgingly tolerating it. (Another way to phrase is it would be…

I’ve come to realize when I feel negative about something, it’s because I desperately want to feel the opposite emotion, not because I truly hate someone, believe I’m not worthy, etc. etc. So after I accept/acknowledge/include that dug-in negativity (to loosen it and part ways with it instead of exhausting myself trying to reject it)…

Routines, willpower, and intelligence are all good, but despite focusing individually on those virtues ad nauseum, I’ve stumbled on blind spots in their overarching coverage. Nowadays, I prefer to focus on timing, specifically the internal harmony I personally associate with it. I find the most fulfillment in that internal harmony, regardless of the effort, thought,…

In my experience, the present moment has a distinct feel, an immersive novelty that fully engages me. There’s no checklists or justifications that guarantee I’ll perceive it. I can only know it by intuition, as well as an inarticulable sensation of absolute calibration. When I’m truly aligned with it, it auto-corrects my checklists while simplifying…

Personally, my ability to create is dependent on my ability to allow–I don’t shape things into being so much as allow things to be shaped. Most of the time, the narrative surprises me with an unexpected twist while I’m writing it. If I take too much ownership or become too prideful in my creation, I…

Obviously, the person I have to spend the most time with in my life is myself. So it would make sense to be fair to myself, to guide myself toward positivity and a life worth living, not just in retrospect, but also moment to moment, by being as present as I can. To let self-hate…

The urge to prove my worth (or sneer at someone else’s) has caused me to miss out on much of my life. In my mind, worth is a given, which is why I suspect Buddha didn’t justify his worth in Mara’s third challenge–if he tried to justify it, he would have implicitly acknowledged that his…

When I realized my happiness wasn’t necessarily dependent on circumstance (by being miserable in “good” conditions and happy in “bad” ones), I began thinking of it as my responsibility. Then I thought of it as my right. Then I thought of it as my choice. Then I realized I didn’t need to think about it,…

For me, the optimal state of growth entails a steady, positive focus on what’s in front of me. There’s no self-flagellation, jealousy of those with status and/or success, or sneering at any with less fortune. Just an easy and open regard of how I can perform as best I can. If I win or lose,…

I don’t believe discipline is a masochistic ritual where I constantly force myself to do what I hate (which I have spent decades doing), it’s consistently focusing on being in touch with my feelings and dreams, staying oriented around what makes me happy in the long run, following up on leads and hunches that might…