I’ve been consistently reminded that I can be absolutely miserable when good things are going to happen–I’ve become angry and short-tempered while they were unfolding, simply because they weren’t occurring instantaneously.
Then I began thinking–even if my life was full of enjoyable certainties, I could make myself miserable as I waited for them to unfold, and demand that they happen faster and faster. Most of my life, in that scenario, would be spent in misery. So now I focus on relaxing and appreciating, whether good things are happening or they’re just unfolding. I want to enjoy the silence between the notes, rather than throw a fit due to the apparent lack of music.
Dirty Sci-Fi Buddha 
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Gosh dang, I couldn’t relate to this more. Rewiring that thought process is easier said than done, but I’m right there in the thick of it with you!
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It’s definitely not a straight-line process!
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Thanks for sharing this idea. Anita
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Excellent perspective.
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An excellent way of looking at life.
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Sage words, easily taken to heart, but very difficult to see through, especially for me. Allus good to hear (read) someone else recognizing our bile is most often directly from our own liver, not from some other sorry &^%&*^%&*^’s doings.
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It can definitely be a struggle!
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Yupper. See (below) you sleep. How on earth do yo manage that?
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It may sound touchy-feely, but I try to listen to my gut on that. For too long, I just powered through, only to learn that ignoring the body doesn’t work out well for me.
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I love how you compared the waiting process to music. Reminds me of a quote from Aaliyah Janell, “A Queen never rushes. The music comes when it wants to come.”
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Forcing things definitely hasn’t worked for me. Great quote!
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Thanks for the like – I’m still getting used to WordPress so posting is slower than I would like, but I intend building up my blog one step at a time.
It can be hard to recognise the insane pressure to rush everything our modern society places upon us. Our minds need silent periods of contemplation (besides sleep!) to function at their optimum level. Well done on taking that step.
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I agree! Living a checklist life isn’t something I resonate with.
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Thanks for the share!
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Fantastic! I love your way of seeing things.
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The musical analogy is great – one I’ll bear in mind.
Gwen.
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It’s one of my favorite ways to model existence!
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I thought of this while thinking of why comma placement matters, but your little bit about music reminded me of something I was pondering a few weeks ago: Music without rests is just a bunch of noise.
We sometimes have to learn about it the hard way, but life is more often about the stuff in between the big moments, not so much the big moments themselves. As Ferris Bueller said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
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Absolutely! All of it can be appreciated with an accommodating perspective, or a “trained ear” in the parlance of the metaphor
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some of my favorite music these days includes a lot of space for the silence…appreciate that correlation :}
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Sometimes it’s easy to forget how nice it can be. Kind of like how drinking plain water can be surprisingly tasty after too much soda or flavored stuff
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yes!
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