In the past, I have found myself in the grip of behaviors that cause me to wonder “why did I act that way? I knew that the outcome would be undesirable.” I began to realize, only after sufficient introspection, that if I don’t acknowledge my tendencies and the reasons behind them, I might as well have no free will at all. Without awareness of my faults and an aggressive stance toward addressing them, I find myself completely at the mercy of my design and past experiences, doomed to enact the same patterns again and again.
This guides my interactions with other people; if I notice the same behaviors arising again and again, I do not judge them as villainous. I simply see them as a different version of myself, for in a very real sense, I have been exactly where they are at right now.