I believe after a certain amount of responsibility has been avoided, after a certain amount of truth has been deflected, the choice becomes: hide deeper and deeper in the cramped confines of comfort, or venture into suffering, and possibly break through into a state of unrestrained fulfillment. The first option is sure and easy. The second is unsure and fraught with risk. But that’s why in all those classic stories, the hero must demonstrate [bravery/honesty/ruthlessness/discipline/etc. etc.] but above all that, the willingness to sacrifice his/her attachment to their old identity, and the resolve to be born anew into something formidable.