Most people try and tailor external circumstances around their mental operating systems. For individuals with a high caliber of talent/luck, they can keep this up indefinitely. For the rest of us, it seems that reality will give us clues to look inward and upgrade our systems. It seems to me that people who ignore those clues steadily weave a web of denial, instinctively fleeing any hints that they have to hold themselves accountable. (I think this is how people eventually become old, bitter, and trapped in stagnant behaviors) Those who heed the clues may or may not achieve an upgrade, but they can at least say they tried. I don’t think this choice (or any other, for that matter) is a reflection of someone’s worth; only an indicator of past experiences and the preferences that those experiences generate.
But personally, I’d like to try and live life outside of that web of denial.